I woke up with a feeling of dread at 3:30 this morning.
I was convinced I was doing everything wrong and failure was coming for me.
All my flaws and mistakes are surely going to catch up with me and wreak havoc, I thought.
Panic, rumination, worry…
“Breathe, Carmel. Just breathe.
No one is prefect. Those flaws make you relatable.
Yes, you make mistakes. Apologize when you do and it will be ok.
Anything that isn’t working, you can change it. You have time.
You are safe.
You are loved.
You are capable.”
I’m sure I’m not the only one who has these moments. (I’m not, right? 😬)
Every now and then something sets off the ever-vigilant risk management department in the brain and it goes into panic mode.
The key to not being sidelined by it is to flex some different mental muscles.
1. Acknowledge that, In this moment, you are safe. There is no sabre tooth tiger (or its modern day equivalent) lurking in your house waiting to pounce.
2. Once that sinks in, ask yourself what this voice of worry is trying to tell you. Actual disaster and failure are rare so what is the 5% truth in this message that you can put to good use?
3. What concrete action(s) can you take to improve a situation or relationship that isn’t working as well as it could?
This is a simple practice that can get you out of panic mode and back on track.
You don’t have time to be high jacked by fear and dread. Take a few minutes to calm your risk management department when it has a moment and get on with living out your dreams.
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