Are you looking for “more”?
Do you have a little voice in your head that’s been telling you there’s more out there for you? Maybe you have a louder voice drowning it out with reasons why “more” isn’t in the cards (“Who do you think you are?!”) or why wanting “more” doesn’t make sense (“That...
How can a single mom make life easier?
Everyone says it: Being a single parent is HARD. But does it have to be? Is "hard" inevitable? No. There are ways to make your life easier. I’ve done it and you can too. Here are a few tips: 1. Automate as much as possible! Yes, schedule bill payments and that sort of...
Watch your mouth
“Watch your mouth.” It’s a phrase I remember well from childhood. Whenever I got a little sassy with my parents, that was was usually their return fire. As adults we don’t generally have anyone tell us to watch our mouths, even though we still need it. But instead of...
It’s my birthday and I don’t care
It’s my birthday today and I was dreaming up some poetic post about what turning 45 means to me. But the truth is that it doesn’t really mean anything to me. That number has zero significance in my life. It’s a number to mark time. That said, it is a unique moment in...
Surviving to thriving as a single parent
I'm so excited to share the most recent episode of "A Resilience Project" with host Cindy Thompson. We talk about building resilience as single/solo/co-parents: how asking for help is a strength, letting go is a gift, and loving ourselves is the best foundation of our...
Thoughts on Mother’s Day
To every mom out there who has mixed feelings about Mother's Day, I see you. I hope that you can look past any pain this day brings up and find a spark of joy or contentment. Each mother walks her own path. Sometimes the path is clear and easy and sometimes it's...
Actions speak louder than words
The other day, a well-intentioned post commending single parents irked me a little. The person’s partner was away for a few days and they were expressing admiration for single parents because the brief absence was making life challenging. I do appreciate it when...
What jewels are buried inside you?
“The universe buries strange jewels deep within us all and then stands back to see if we can ever find them.” This quote is from one of my favourite books, “Big Magic” by Elizabeth Gilbert. The book is Gilbert’s reflections on living a creative life and it is both...
I am from good apples and bad decisions
“I am from good apples and bad decisions.” This is the last line of a poem my son brought home from school last week. It’s a line he wrote. The wisdom of children sometimes blows me away. I laughed when I first read it but the reality is that he’s right. He is from...
A simple solution for overwhelm
Are you tired? And not, “Wow! That was a big day!” tired. I mean "full-on exhausted just from the act of living" tired. In single parent groups and in Clubhouse rooms, I’m seeing frequent posts about not being able to keep up, feeling tired, stressed and overwhelmed....